THE SETUP

Dating across religious lines can either be a big deal or no deal at all. But plot twist: let’s include atheism and our plethora of traditional religions in our understanding of religion. How does the question look now?

THE FORMATION

Rachael

Rachael

Niyi

Niyi

Biodun

Biodun

Taiwo

Tony

Jumoke

Jumoke

Spencer

Spencer

Hauwa

Hauwa

Eniola

Eniola

RACHAEL

Hahahaha this question always looked so easy when it was just Christianity and Islam in the picture. I can marry a Muslim, I’ve seen homes that work despite the difference in religions. The couple reaches an agreement over what religion their kids will practise. As long as we respect each other’s religion, know our boundaries, are willing to make sacrifices, don’t let what people will say matter to us, I think we can make it work.

I’m not sure about dating a traditionalist, though. I feel like if I meet someone who worships Ifa, for example, and understand them and the religion, it just might not be that bad. I think a lot of people get carried away thinking all traditionalists practise bad magic, forgetting that every religion has its own dark aspect.

Atheism is a very different ballgame entirely. I don’t think I can date someone who doesn’t have and might also question my belief in a Supreme Being.

NIYI

I don’t see why not. Well, actually I do. But if it is possible for us to work out the kinks, agree on one never trying to convert the other, one never seeing and thinking less of the other, things like that, which I think would be effortless for me, sure, why not?

BIODUN

As long as I see what makes me happy in you, and you’re not about to set upon a lifetime’s journey of trying to ‘convert’ me over to your side then we’re cool. Religion is a personal matter, and the sooner we realise that the better for us all. For most of us, we just followed in our parents’ steps anyways, so what’s with the attitude? Look at Nigeria today, super religious but still not going anywhere. Who religion epp?

TAIWO

A few months ago, my immediate answer to this would have been no. But well, some things have changed. So yes, I can, so long as the person practises one of the two religions I recognise (Christianity and Islam). Atheist or Trado-religious practitioner, N to the O.

TONY

Here is the thing. There are various belief systems and with religion, there are various doctrines. I am the kind of guy who would want to raise a family or be with someone whose belief or religious doctrine isn’t conflicting. Even as a Christian, there are denominations that have various doctrines that clash and some of us hold on to them very strongly. Imagine me dating a babe that attends Celestial Church of Christ (not judging those who do) and she invites me to a program at her church and I have to represent barefooted and all. It will be shocking.

So it can quite complex and I no get power for such heddik. But then again, if it works for you, Nwanne carry go. I cannot stop your shine when you gone shine.

JUMOKE

No, I cannot. My faith is important to me. When one dates, you at least hope that you might get married to that partner. My faith discourages it, besides, I’d hate to have the conversation with my kids on what religion they’re supposed to practice. Stress.

SPENCER

A few years ago, I would have considered this a no-brainer. Even now, it should still be a no-brainer. However, it’s important to consider values and belief systems before going into a relationship. If you can live with it, fine; if you can’t, okay. I can live with a lot…but why bother with some headaches that are pretty much avoidable? But then again, I’m Catholic, most Christians consider us ‘outsiders’ but I’ve never dated a Catholic so…

Ultimately, values such are kindness, humaneness are more important but what if I want to kick it up a notch? Marry? Kids? Then it becomes much more problematic because, in the end, people will be people.

HAUWA

No. I have and it’s all fun and games until you have to breakup. Moreover, it’s just emotionally stressful. We both knew religion is a big deal to us and our parents so there was no way we would have ended up living happily ever after. Be it a casual or serious relationship, definitely not trying that again.

ENIOLA

LOL! I used to think I can. There was a point in my life almost all my female friends were muslims… Aha! But just for peace of mind, I don’t think I have the strength for that anymore. Atheist? LMAOOO Please let’s be serious.

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